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Free conversation guide

Being 9 to 15 is one long question: who am I?

We made a free guide to help you talk about it — four questions, a few good ways into each, and no lectures. For the grown-ups raising, teaching, and talking with young people ages 9 to 15.

You can tell something's shifting.

Somewhere around 9 or 10, a young person starts rebuilding their whole sense of self — quietly, and usually without a word about it. They can recap a show in perfect detail and go blank when you ask how their week actually felt. One voice at home, another in the group chat. They're working something out.

You don't need to fix any of it. You just need a way in. That's all this guide is.

What you'll get

Who Am I This Year? is a short, printable guide built around the four questions underneath growing up. It isn't a quiz — no right answers, no scores. Each section gives you a question, a few good ways to ask it, and one small thing to try.

Notice

Paying attention to your own days, feelings, and the people around you.

Grow

What's hard right now, and the small, unglamorous courage it takes.

Belong

Where you fit, and who you are when you're there.

Become

Who you're turning into, and how much of that is yours to shape.

Seven pages. Print it, photocopy it for a classroom, keep it on the fridge. It's yours.